The TOP 5 Tips on How to Be Soft and Feminine
Are you ready to learn how to be soft and feminine?
I know social media has a way of glamorizing the “soft like” as if it’s easy to be soft and feminine, but that’s not the case for all of us. Being soft and feminine is by no means easy or simple, but something that has to be developed over time.
The root of being soft and feminine is all about your inner glow that reflects in your daily actions. IF it’s difficult for you to be soft and feminine it might be because of something deeper that needs to be released.
Every wound you carry will be healed. I’ve been right where you are. It’s almost second nature to feel like you need to guard yourself to be considered “tough” or so that people won’t think you are “weak”.
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1. Decide YOUR meaning of being soft and feminine
Sis, this is your journey which means YOU decide what being soft and feminine means. Truth is, being soft and feminine is going to look different for EVERYONE.
You can implement things into your routine that make you feel soft and feminine like going to therapy, spending time with your friends, wearing those pajamas you’ve always wanted, getting lip filler, treating yourself, doing your hair and makeup, etc.
2. It starts within
Being soft and feminine is first and foremost in your heart because your heart guides your actions. That softness that you are looking for is rooted in emotion. Maybe it’s emotion that you are too scared to confront. Maybe it’s too painful to even think about.
What you’re experiencing is a block. Like you literally feel like you’re hitting a wall and don’t know what’s going on. Your inner child needs to be healed.
That’s the thing inside of us that certain people may get a sneak peak at, but it’s almost never revealed. You might not even know it’s there until it’s brought to your attention.
Sis, it’s time to go to therapy. You’re blocking your blessing.
3. Treat yourself how you ACTUALLY want to be treated
I know this is an old saying, but yes you actually HAVE to treat yourself the way YOU want be treated. For example, if you always feel like you are speaking negatively to yourself and continuously doing things that aren’t good for your body you will start to notice a pattern in your behavior.
It’s a no brainer that negative feelings will change how you perceive yourself. After your self perception changes it will be reflected in your actions.
MINDSET SHIFT: Instead of focusing on the negative, FOCUS on the positive. Focus on the things that make you you. Even if you or others think it’s weird, who cares?! There’s only one you.
If this is difficult for you to do this grab a pen or paper or your device and write out the things you love about yourself. Seriously, do it! It works.
The key to this is loving yourself at every stage. You can’t keep waiting to love yourself when you feel like you’ve made it if you can’t love yourself in the valley. I know, I know, easier said than done, but baby steps.
4. Step back and reflect
Before you can make a plan of action you have to step back and reflect. Reflect on yourself, your actions, your state of mind and think are YOU satisfied with where you are at in life right.
Now, this might take some time so allow yourself to really sink into these feelings. It might be uncomfortable, but what do you learn in comfort?
While you are reflecting this is the perfect time to make the leap and do to therapy (yes, it’s a leap). Whether you want to admit it or not, you aren’t going to notice everything about yourself. It’s always a good talk someone who professionally understand how to deal with these things.
If you aren’t ready for therapy, I get it! Seek out guidance from a trusted friend, advisor, mentor, parent, etc.
PS, no nothing has to be “wrong” with you in order to make the decision to go therapy.
5. It’s time
It’s time to make a plan of action. It’s time to move on. It’s time to go to therapy. It’s time to forgive. It’s time to heal. You decide what it’s time to do and you HAVE to do something. Being stagnant won’t get you anywhere.
If you are making a plan of action make a decision on what works best for you and the life you want to live and go with it.
Create routines, stay disciplined, protect your peace and adapt to the ebbs and flows.
Becoming the women you’ve always wanted to takes time, but SO worth it!
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